Boundaries aren’t bad.  In marriage, boundaries are imperative to promote emotional and relational health and provide a frame of safety by which we can know a deeper, richer and truer love.  

The it crept upon us, slowly and without warning.  As the newly wedded bliss faded, we began to impose our expectations on each other, not all at once but subtly, over time.  We harbored resentment when needs went unmet and began imposing shaming tactics. We’d guilt trip each other into complying with our own selfish motives.

There are the days that we don’t give much notice to because they are neither amazing nor particularly challenging. 

But those simple days, the slow mundane ones where you are building a creating your lives and marriage together, those days are filled with such purpose and such simple beauty.